sex therapy
Most couples go through times when sex gets complicated.
It doesn't mean something is wrong with your relationship. It usually means something is asking for attention. This is one of the most common reasons couples come to therapy - and one of the least talked about.
What brings couples to sex therapy?
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One of you wants more connection. The other has gone quiet.
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Sex has become a source of tension, negotiation, or avoidance.
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The physical side of your relationship has slowly disappeared and neither of you knows how to bring it back.
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Sex has become the thing you don't bring up because last time it turned into a fight.
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Something happened that changed how safe or wanted one of you feels.
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One or both of you carry shame about desire, body image, or past experiences.
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You've never quite talked about what you actually want - and don't know how to start.
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You love each other but feel more like roommates.
What sex therapy actually is
Sex therapy is talk therapy. There is no physical component, no demonstrations, and nothing that would feel out of place in any other counselling session. What makes it different is simply that we talk openly and directly about sex - without euphemism, without judgment, and without treating it as separate from the rest of your relationship.
Because it isn't separate. How a couple navigates desire, initiation, and physical closeness is almost always connected to how they navigate conflict, vulnerability, and emotional safety. We work on both - and often what shifts in one area quietly shifts the other.
I bring the same approach here that I bring to all couples work: curiosity over judgment, both partners held equally, and a willingness to go where the conversation actually needs to go.
I also work with individuals navigating questions about desire, identity, or sexual concerns in a one-on-one context.
Mismatched desire
Differences in desire are the most common sexual concern I work with - and one of the most misunderstood. The partner who wants more often feels rejected, unwanted, or like something is wrong with them. The partner who wants less often feels pressured, guilty, or broken. Both are suffering. Neither is at fault.
What looks like a mismatch in desire is often a mismatch in what each person needs to feel safe, connected, and open. When we understand that, the dynamic almost always starts to shift.
You don't have to resign yourselves to a relationship where this is just how it is. And you don't have to keep having the same painful conversation about it alone.