Thoughts on relationships, therapy, and what it means to change.

"Here we go again." You know the feeling. Somehow you're having the exact same argument you've had before. Maybe it starts with the dishes, sex, money, parenting, someone's family, or who isn't pulling their weight. But before long, you're no longer talking about the dishes. You're talking about how your partner never listens. Or how you can never do anything right. Or how you don't feel appreciated. And eventually one of you walks away thinking, How did we get here again? Th

If you're thinking about couples counselling, you may have some idea of what you're hoping will change. Maybe you're tired of having the same argument. Maybe you don't feel heard by your partner. Maybe you've become disconnected and aren't sure how to find your way back to each other. Or maybe things are going well, and you want to invest in your relationship before you have a problem to solve. But you may also be wondering what actually happens once you walk into the room. D

Many couples believe they have a communication problem. Often, the deeper issue is that both partners are longing to feel heard and understood. Learn why slowing down and understanding the pattern beneath the conflict can change the conversation.